the outline is from John Maxwell's Leadership Gold (www.johnmaxwell.com/leadershipgold)
the comments are from your's truly.
Failures in Leadership:
1. "Activity does not necessarily equal accomplishment"
2. "Uncertainty and the personal changes I was dealing with... I became unfocused, and my vision for the organization became cloudy. My passion and energy also began to wane."
3. "The people were not prepared for the decisions - and I was unprepared for their response."
4. "My unwillingness to make difficult decisions cost me many dollars and some key personnel."
Observations of Human Nature:
1. "People seldom see themselves realistically."
2. "We tend to judge others according to their actions... we judge ourselves by our intentions."
Leading Your Self:
1. "Civilization is always in danger when those who have never learned to obey are given the right to command." - Bishop Fulton J. Sheen
"Good leadership requires an understanding of the world that followers live in... Arrogant leaders... alienate their followers, their colleagues, and their leaders."
So much of my life has been spent in some mode of leadership. I have not paid my dues on the low rungs of the ladder, and it limits me.
History has shown that I alienate those my age and older whom I work with/around. I hate to admit that, but it is true. I have made some efforts to change my method of interaction in recent years, but admittedly, it seems a bit of a facade, condescending.
2. "The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is the servant to the leader." - Solomon.
"When we are foolish, we want to conquer the world. When we are wise, we want to conquer ourselves." - John Foster
3. "Being one step ahead makes you a leader... Being fifty steps ahead could make you a martyr."
"Leaders need to remember that the point of leading is not to cross the finish line first. It's to take people across the finish line with you."
"Do not overestimate what you can do in a year, and underestimate what you can do in ten years." - Rockbrain
4. People "can't trust themselves". "Two decisions: First, I will not trust myself. Second, I will become accountable to someone other than myself."
We don't see ourselves clearly. I don't. I am humble in the macro and boastful in the micro, and blind spots surround me.
Falling away is rare. Inching away is all too common. Given enough time to degenerate, we are 'above' nothing.
Stages of Relationships:
Acceptance - meet people where they are
Affirmation - help build people up
Accountability - hold people to an agreed upon standard (few reach this stage)
Authority - give people distinct power over your actions (very few reach this stage)
We must have someone(s) in the Accountability/Authority stage to submit to. Someone we trust enough in the easy times to follow in the difficult times, when they likely see things more clearly than you do.
Stages of Development:
"We don't want advice.
We don't object to advice.
We welcome advice.
We actively seek advice.
We often follow the advice given to us."
I am at the "don't object - welcome advice" stage. My confidence precludes me from going after other's advice, with few exceptions.
Leading Yourself
"You are held responsible not onl for your own actions, but also for those of the people you lead."